First, ask God regularly what your vocation is and pray for guidance and insight. Secondly, ask Jesus to be part of major decisions in your life, being attentive to the fruit of the Spirit (joy, peace, gratitude, etc.) to make sure what you desire is what God desires. Third, ask those you trust and respect (including your pastor) who live different vocations (married, religious, priests, deacons) about the blessings and challenges of their vocation. Ask them for guidance as to how they think God might be asking you to love.